Feeling the pressure to have everything now?
I am guilty of this 100% and add another 30 on to that! Maybe it stems from being a child that didn’t have the IT girl accessories, cool high-end highstreet clothes and GHD’s? Or perhaps its the rise of social media and the unrealistic standards it’s forming. Either way, I am guilty of it and if you’re reading this, you probably are too?!
I’d say I have control over it, I know to take social media and all its millions of highlights with a pinch of salt.
I know whilst Susan may be looking glamorous, on holiday, at a cocktail bar and dressed up for date night in her last seven Instagram posts that ALL went up within the last 4 days, that most likely she’s not looking like that right now. She may even resemble something like me, hair up in a bun, last night’s pyjamas on with a tub of ice cream in one hand and guilty watching Love Island with mascara stains under her eyes.I know this, I know Instagram is a fake reality, I take to Twitter for more realness, but it
I know this, I know Instagram is a fake reality, I take to Twitter for more realness, but it can get us down sometimes right,?
We see Susan, moving into her Instagram worthy home, that she’s somehow afforded to fill with TK Maxx and The White Company finds in a matter of months. Bought a puppy that’s so fluffy, that you may even scream with delight. Jane then has the most gorgeous coloured convertible AND going on her fourth holiday of the year.
It all makes us a bit green-eyed monster right? Even if we will never admit it, even to ourselves, but it makes us believe that we somehow have to make our bank balance stretch to buying that ridiculous mustard velvet cushion, a dominoes weekly AND plan for the most epic Bali holiday – Not really realistic is it? When so many people live on minimum-wage or just above. I personally don’t BUT it certainly means I can’t save for a deposit on a house of our own AND buy all the gorgeous new clothing that everyone expects of us.
REPEAT: WE DON’T NEED IT ALL.
This is something I tell myself daily, I don’t have all the nice on-trend clothes that I want or what would probably help me blog better because I’ve concentrated on my house this year and paying off last year’s Menorca holiday. LITERALLY a year later and we’ve both paid off the holiday and making our way through the furniture loan. It’s not as easy as everyone makes out on Instagram! I’ve had friends and family come to the house and exclaim how have I got it looking like this ALREADY – Hard bloody work is what, if I wasn’t actually working to pay for it I was putting in the hours in the evening searching for the best furniture deals, popping into TK Maxx weakly to pick up bits and bobs and scrimping on the delivery charges by picking it up in the car or Robyn fetching it over literally on a 2 wheeled hand trolley.
JUST BE HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU HAVE AND ACHIEVE WHAT REALISTICALLY WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY!
So, please, be kind to yourself and remember you don’t need nor have to have it all now! By all means, work towards it but don’t feel under pressure or get yourself into debt because of it! Memories are what will stick with us at the end not, the 10 velvet sofa cushions we bought when we were in our 20’s.
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